For those who have daughters....

Anyone that knows Leena (My 7 and a a half year old) knows that she's not only a very bright, intelligent girl, but she can be emotional. VERY emotional. To the point of rediculous emotional.

For example: Today, Jeff, Me and Leena were in the backyard. Playing frisbee on a nice sunny day. The frisbee, went into the next door neighbors backyard. They know we have 2 kids, and almost expect things like this to happen. They seem like nice people. As a kid, if that happened, my mom always marched me over to the neighbors house, and had me kindly ask for my toy back, and apologize for the inconvience. Makes sense, doesn't it? It made me learn that me neighbors were very kind people, and that it was ok if it was an accident, and didn't happen all the time.

I normally would just say fine, you're crying, I'll get it for you. But I'm so tired of bailing her out, I want her to actually LEARN that it's ok to talk to certain people and she's not asking for anything bad.

Anyway, Long story short, frisbee went over the fence. Started to walk up to the door, and she started crying. This is VERY typical of Leena. I don't know if it's because she's figured out that crying can get her out of situations (in this case, her frisbee I got her, is history for all I care, she's not going to run this house with her tears) or if it's some detail cause psychologically when she was 2 or what?

I marched her right back home, and she just was bawling. Rediculously. I said "Hey, if you're that upset over your frisbee, you obviously are tired, so go upstairs to your room, and lay down. You don't have to sleep, but if you're tired and it's making you cry that muh, you at least need to rest. you don't have to sleep, just clam your nerves a bit". I go and peek in the slit through the door about 10 in later, she's calm, and sulking. Jeff comes in from weeding and says "Want me to give it a shot?" I say "Sure, good luck. She's having a pity party up there". He was downstairs about 6 seconds later, literally. He said "nope, she started crying again when i offered to go over to the neighbors house, and then take her to the park to play with it". So, this is an uphill battle.

Do I force her to stay in her room the rest of the day until she agrees to go over there and ask fo rit, to prove a point? Or do I save my lilttle 7 year old damsel in distress and her mommy usually does. I'm sick of her sobbing of DUMB things. We all adore her, everyone does, she's a doll. But she's human and does have her qwirks. And it drives both sides of her family nuts with the sobbing.